From our agony aunt:
Dear Alma,
I have a nosy viola professor! She’s always bringing up dramas and problems she has with university students and co-workers within the music school.
It’s getting to the point where I’m not sure how to handle all of this information because it’s simply too much! I would prefer she stop sharing how much she hates certain students and co-workers both in my private lessons and in our group studio classes!
Sincerely,
Too much chaotic drama
Dear Too much chaotic drama,
It’s often the case that boundaries become soft in student-teacher relationships. I use the term relationship meaningfully here, because, no matter how diligently we work to maintain a neutral, educational environment, it’s natural that this one-on-one, weekly, private, one-hour meeting will become a relationship of some sort or another.
Be respectful, and tell the teacher that you would like to keep the conversation focused on musical topics only. Refrain from sharing anything about yourself. If this does not immediately neutralize the situation, please do go to speak to your office about your situation.
It is not your job as a student to listen to personal opinions not related to music from a teacher. Unfortunately, this teacher has become unprofessional, and very likely will face disciplinary measures soon. I wouldn’t be surprised if things come to a head very quickly.
All of your experiences in school are learning experiences. Most of us will become teachers at some point in our lives, and we can learn from the mistakes of others and remember that everything we do and say as a teacher can seriously affect our students, possibly for life. Take that knowledge and do good with it, when your time comes to be a mentor. Inspire, foster curiosity, hard work, and support while offering a bubble of professional neutrality.
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